Autism Politico has learned of the existence of an “autism friendly hotel.”
Now, we can go two ways with this post:
1) How ridiculous! Isn’t it enough that we have EAs in school, Snoezelen Rooms, support dogs, support cats, lots of therapies (legitimate and quack)? Isn’t enough that we’re retraining cops, teachers, parents and even barbers to “accommodate” us in all the necessary ways? Isn’t it enough that we have special hours for autistics at grocery stores, and we have special “autism friendly” screenings at movies? Isn’t it enough that we have autism cruises, and calming rooms at theme parks like Dollywood? Isn’t it enough that we get disability benefits, food stamps, and public housing when we need it?
Maybe people haven’t noticed, but despite all of these and other accommodations, the meltdowns and tantrums haven’t stopped. If anything, they’ve increased in frequency and ferocity. Autistics continue to fail in school, and they seem to ratchet up the bad behaviors everywhere now that these accommodations -which are designed specifically to prevent these behaviors from occurring- have been broadly implemented.
Autism Politico thinks these accommodations need to be taken away, because once upon a time, there were none, and kids -no matter what their diagnoses- were expected to but their butts to live up to the expectations society had for them. In this way, such children would not be a societal liability, but an asset.
Or, we could say…
2) It’s about time we had an autism friendly hotel! We’re not satisfied with the tiny amount of ass-kissing we get from society, and believe we should be getting lots more accommodations and “free stuff.” We should have slaves, hookers, drugs, and really good digs. In fact, we should be put up in mansions, which come with a conveyor belt of cash heading straight to our wallets, and we should get deliveries of McDonald’s Chicken McNuggets to our house every fifteen minutes. Moms and dads and teachers and cops and -everybody who isn’t autistic- should understand that this is what they owe us…. because GENE MUTATIONS.
Never mind that other -more disabled people- are getting fewer accommodations. It’s not our fault that they aren’t as loud-mouthed and greedy as we are. We deserve MORE! And we’re not going to stop whining, bitching, and complaining and making everyone’s lives difficult until you give us your last penny and your last ounce of energy as you service our every need.
Which sounds better to your ears? #1 or #2?
If you’re an NT, YOU make the choice.
Because either way… you’re buying, and what you order is going to be the opposite of what you want delivered.
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Today is the day we remember that there are people on the spectrum who deliberately and by choice make things difficult for their parents and claim that autism is an excuse for doing so. We also remember that there are NTs which enable autistics to be problems for their families.
Read this article where it says:
“I’m ready to explode! My son is 7 and has aspergers [sic]. He absolutely stinks. His bedroom is a bomb site, he won’t clean it. I am not allowed to clean it, he opens the door and the whole house smells if he does. He doesn’t allow me to go in his room for his clothes. He won’t bring his clothes down without an argument. He refuses to take a shower, won’t brush his teeth. I can’t take it anymore. I went in his room this morning, found empty yogurt containers under his mattress. Clothes stuffed everywhere. I flung it all on the floor. If he wants to live like that, fair enough – but not here under my roof. I have had it.”
Autism Politico doesn’t see why this problem exists, but when you read the response to the comment, you understand. Parents are basically supposed to find new, ingenious, and never before tried ways to solve a problem that takes less that thirty seconds for experienced parents to solve: You either go in there and clean out the room and let the kid sob over what you’re doing, or you make the kid’s life so miserable via punishments that they will clean it themselves.
The situation in the article can be seen as a metaphor for what is wrong with a good portion of the autistic population. The latest thing autistics are whining about it in the US are the government’s probably cuts to people with disabilities. Of course they disregard the fine print, which basically says that redundant agencies and services will be cut, and people judged to be gaming the system will be thrown off benefits.
This is a good thing.
We autistics here at Autism Politico believe that many of our fellow autistics are spoiled brats, and are taking advantage of people from the cradle to the grave. This is what we must take away from World Autism Awareness Day.
It’s time for that to end, and thank goodness Trump, his administration, and Republicans are working toward that goal.
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Autism Politico anticipates a spike in views at this entry, but we assure our readers that our intent is not to get their rocks off or ours. We just want to comment on a post made by someone else on the subject of autism and masturbation in boys and men.
To read the original post we are referring to go here.
If you are looking to get some sexual arousal from this post, get lost.
I) Masturbation is a difficult topic. Mix it in with the subject of autism, and it can become a very difficult topic. Catherine Newell makes an attempt to address this topic in a way that seems suitable for her, and we’re not going to bash her for addressing the topic itself, since others have.
II) But we feel she’s missing a few points, and may have made some points erroneously, so we feel, being autistics, we should have our say, fill in the gaps, and right any perceived wrongs.
III) With all that said, we are not medical professionals, so if you have any questions or issues on this topic, talk to your doctor.
IV) Our understanding of Newell’s post is that -among other things- she feels that sexual urges in male autistics, specifically severely affected ones, are something that needs to be relieved because, aside from feelings of sexual frustration experienced by many, some autistics physically hurt themselves when attempting to masturbate, in some cases requiring medical care as a result of their attempts.
Therefore, she seems to be saying that it is necessary to teach males on the spectrum to masturbate (and females also, although she does not address females in her post, being the parent of a male autistic). She discusses various ways in which this might be done.
V) Though we have religious and moral views on this topic, we’re going to set those aside and look at things from what we hope is an objective standpoint, and the reason we are looking at things objectively, is that we feel that Newell is looking at things subjectively.
What we feel Newell is overlooking are these points:
A) Although we are not medical professionals, our understanding with regard to the male human body is that the body will eject surplus sperm and semen through nocturnal emissions, thereby solving the problem of someone not being able to masturbate. In other words, to our knowledge, if the human body is functioning optimally and normally -as we understand it- then there is no physical health risk to the human body by avoiding or not masturbating.
B) We acknowledge that sex can be used for two purposes: 1) To procreate. 2) For pleasure.
C) We understand that a large number of people on the spectrum are asexual, which Newell does not acknowledge. Therefore, parents who agree with Newell’s ideas and try to explain masturbation to autistics may be foisting sex on them when they are not remotely interested in sex.
D) We understand that a number of people on the spectrum are hyper-sexual, which Newell does not acknowledge. Therefore, parents who agree with Newell’s ideas and try to explain masturbation to autistics may be feeding an autistic’s sexual addiction and exacerbating an existing problem rather than solving it.
E) Pain is there for a reason. If an autistic person is masturbating to the point where they are causing pain or damage to their own bodies, one has to ask how severe the compulsion is that would cause them to deliberately persist in masturbatory endeavors regardless of how much they are injuring themselves.
On this point, it should be stated that self-injury, like head-banging, is a completely different kind of thing than injuring one’s self through masturbation. Head-banging is a response to frustration, or stimuli, and may not actually hurt an autistic, but instead relieve the autistic from painful feelings or emotions. But to persist with masturbation past the point of injury, and to endure pain during this time is suggestive of a compulsion or addiction. We are of the opinion that medical or psychological or psychiatric treatment would be advantageous at this point.
F) But given dispositions of many autistics in general [that they must have something NOW or else throw a tantrum or fall into a meltdown] is encouraging immediate sexual gratification in this circumstance a good thing, or is it creating confusion? How is a severely affected autistic to discern why it’s wrong to grab a candy bar off a shelf in the store and eat it without paying if he is taught that it’s okay to masturbate in private the moment the urge hits?
G) Let’s remember that stimming is something autistics use to relieve/manage/navigate stress. It’s a risky venture to teach an autistic person to masturbate because if they use it purely as a stim, it will become a behavior that will be very hard to break them of when necessary.
H) The idea that a parent of caregiver or sex worker should physically help an autistic to achieve orgasm is a concept we utterly reject, though Newell implies that these alternatives are acceptable.
I) Autism Politico feels that it’s not a stretch for us to say that for anyone, autistic or not, who has actually had sex, there comes a point where routine can become boring, even though it’s pleasurable. This begs the question: If a severely autistic person who has been taught to masturbate hit that plateau where masturbation becomes boring, what may that individual next do to satisfy the existing urge? Having been versed by one or more methods by which ejaculation may be achieved, isn’t it possible that the autistic person may see another human as a possible source of sexual release?
-Perhaps they want someone to masturbate them.
-Perhaps they make the cognitive association between their genitals and someone else’s.
-And perhaps they rape the other person in an attempt to be masturbated, or to achieve orgasm.
-And what if this other person is a child, a parent, a caregiver, an elderly person, or a bystander?
J) If the child or adult experiencing sexual frustration was not autistic would Newell teach them how to masturbate? In which case, what would that look like? “Come on over here, Jimmy. Mommy’s going to show you how to jack off!”
What is disturbing about Newell’s commentary is that she doesn’t seem to acknowledge that unless a non-autistic person suffers from some sexual deviancy, a non-autistic person can control their sexual impulses. We don’t see psychologically healthy NTs masturbating in public or forcing themselves on people.
Neither do we see psychologically healthy autistic people doing these things.
Ergo it is our opinion that any autistic person -no matter how severely or mildly affected- who does engage in inappropriate or outright deviant behavior needs to be taught how to control those impulses before they can be taught how to relieve them, and we very much doubt that a parent or caregiver is capable of performing this function.
Again, we are not medical professionals, but we aren’t stupid either. We are autistic. And we feel that Newell believes that those of us who are severely affected are mindless idiots who live by the pleasure principle, or that we have a stimulus-response manner of existence.
It’s very insulting.
We recognize that her experience is her own, but we feel she may be underselling her own child as well as many autistics, and so we could not let her comments stand unchallenged.
Replies to this editorial are welcome.
Autism Politico’s take on this is that the UK is a giant breast which some of the other EU members are suckling from long after they should have been weaned from the teat. The EU gains more from the UK than the UK gains from the EU. An ideal relationship would be one where all parties receive mutual benefits.
As much as some people in the autism community are terrified that a break from the EU may mean a cutting in benefits, the truth is, many autistics, like the EU, need to get off the tit and start doing for themselves.
Autism Politico doesn’t think people with autism should listen to any leader in the autism community that has supported or continues to support the UK REMAINING in the European Union, and people may want to consider that such autism leaders may be self-serving, i.e. telling their constituency and supporters what they want to hear just to keep getting contributions to their causes.
Replies to this editorial are welcome.
Autism Politico feels it necessary to rebut the latest re-activated campaign that one small segment of the autism community keeps trying to resurrect, and that would be the concept of supposed neurotypical privilege. Links to the pictured blog have been popping up more and more recently in the more radical Facebook groups.
We ask what privileges would those be that neurotypicals have? When we know that Hans Asperger said that anyone on the autism spectrum who had intelligence could succeed if they applied themselves it would seem, then, that autistics are given the same chances as any NT, and they have similar, if not identical means by which they can achieve.
Let us keep in mind that everyone who is alive has either a medical diagnosis, or a psychiatric diagnosis, or some worldly troubles which complicate their abilities to function or a combination of the three. But it is consistently radical autistics who claim victimhood, believing that only they, among all the people in the world, no matter what their diagnosis or situation, have it the worst, and that all these people who have it better fall into one category: Neurotypical, and that all these neurotypical people are somehow privileged.
If neurotypicality were a race, autistics who believed in neurotypical privilege would be racist.
It’s been proven by Asperger that, like anyone else in society, self-motivation and the willingness to be instructed, mentored, and taught by others is all that is necessary for autistics to succeed. These motivating factors are no different than the ones neurotypicals have. Ergo neither autistics nor nuerotypicals seem to be privileged, but merely equal.
But we would argue that it IS autistics who are privileged, because whereas in previous times autistics went through school, got jobs, and had families, more recently, autistics have managed to convince people that they are incapable of doing these things. Presently, the MAJORITY of people on the spectrum (Aspies particularly) seem to be claiming complete incompetence. And so society gives them welfare, food stamps, subsidized housing, free medical care, IEPs, and an assortment of other benefits that previous generations of autistics would be insulted to have, let alone ask for.
The PRIVILEGE that people on the spectrum have is that they have convinced you that they are victims, when in fact it has been known since the time of Asperger that they are not. They are the furthest things from victims that you will ever see. If you are neurotypical, YOU are the victim.
Taking this one step further, in some instances, where autistics try to convince you that they are helpless -even though others who are more greatly affected have proven otherwise- it may be said that autistics are not victims at all, but bullies and abusers. It may be said that they victimize you, and then claim YOU are the abuser.
So Autism Politico urges you to ignore the neurotypical privilege concept, and consider that those who promote it might be bullies. As autistics, we cannot allow proponents of the neurotypical privilege concept to make NTs view us with condescension. NTs have been most generous with their assistance and gifts to us. Too giving really.
It’s time for autistics to give back to NTs, and for some autistics to return what they have, in effect, stolen from them.
Autism Politico wishes we could apologize for the embarrassing actions of those who devised the neurotypical privilege concept, but we assure you that their idea is not one that is shared by the autism community at large. True autism activists view such concepts with disgust.
Replies to this editorial are welcome.